saw leon going on about love on his blog so thought i would give my 10 cents on the matter - my 2 cents is free. so sit back and enjoy, folks
love is a four-letter word, and like most other words of its ilk, love has a reputation that precedes it. it is discussed before it is experienced, dissected and analysed yet all the thoughts fly out the window when the purple haze of 'love' descends. however, this begs the question of whether love is an emotion that comes upon you, or is it something that comes about from giving, through the act of self-sacrifice for the sake of someone else, often for intangible reasons?
more often that not, the feeling which you accusingly point the finger to as love is actually mere infatuation. you do not feel for that special person per se, but you are enamoured by the idea and concept for caring for someone. you in effect 'in love with being in love'. it begins with attraction and seldom proceeds further than that. you are attracted but that is all. because if you scratch below the surface, all you will find are shallow feelings. do you really care deep down inside? bear in mind that the idealistic vision of love is one that is often deemed irrational, the only case where self-sacrifice can be chosen over self-gain.
of course, there are instances where you really like someone because of who they are, and not merely due to physical attraction. however, not to play devil's advocate, but its hard to get to know someone within the span of a few years or months. a person is much too complicated to be fully assessed and considered in such a short time. the point i'm driving at is lack of information. you won't know enough of the person. they may be nice/caring/sweet/charming but surely that would just be the tip of the iceberg. give it time before you entrust your feelings to someone
alright, i'm sure alot of y'all may have experienced a sharp twingey-kinda feeling somewhere in your chest cavity, around the centre, a little bit to the left? Yup you've just experienced a short but intense jolt to the heart. (either that or you've on the receiving end of a heart attack, which won't be pretty) your body was full of emotion, and once triggered by something ( a thought, voice or image perhaps) it manifests itself through a strong surge of endorphins (the feel good hormone) and you feel like you're walking amongst the clouds. i'm quite sure that this is felt with true love, but it doesn't necessarily signal the presence of love in the air. as said earlier, attraction is an awesomely powerful emotion and attraction can be the cause of experiencing said feelings above. the feeling is shiok to say the least, hence people are unlikely to question it much and they'd just 'go with the flow' and enjoy the rush that they get. but beware. love would involve your head, your mind & heart. attraction would normally involve, err...other parts of the anatomy. perhaps it can be said that attraction is simply love minus all the messy emo mental shebang.
ok this is by no means a definitive and exhaustive resource on love. take things with a large dose of salt because none of the views here are guaranteed to be coherent, cogent or even correct. consider them at your own risk haha
l.o.v.e.
Sunday, April 30, 2006
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